• Missy Rankin, CTNC, CHS

Why Learning About Forgiveness Is Important and Can Actually Improve Your Health!

Updated: Sep 18, 2020

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Forgiveness.


Why is it so hard?


According to the Oxford Languages dictionary, the word 'forgive' means to

  • stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.

  • cancel (a debt).

  • used in polite expressions as a request to excuse or regard indulgently one's foibles, ignorance, or impoliteness.


I’m OK with the last definition but man oh man has it been quite hard/tough/a big struggle to do the first two definitions.


Can you relate?


Has something happened and you’re having a hard time forgiving, letting go, and going on with your life?


Have you noticed how miserable you feel when the person or memory comes back in your life?


Did you know it’s possible to make peace with the situation? To really and truly forgive and ‘let it go’? To be able to see the person or remember (not dwell) on the memory without the overwhelming feelings rushing in?





It’s possible. I’ve done with it painful memories from my past, my ex-husband, and even friends who betrayed me.


I know some reading this may be saying things like, "but Missy, you don’t understand what they did/ said to me.”


And you’re right I don’t know.


But I do know that I’ve had to forgive people who range an 8-10 (with 10 being the worse) on the People-Who-Did-Me-Wrong Scale.


Stay with me and let's continue.


In order to begin the process of forgiving, letting go, and moving on with life- first, we need to truly understand how toxic unforgiveness is.


Let’s look at WHY forgiveness is so important.


You may have heard that unforgiveness is like drinking poison expecting the other person to be hurt. Yeah, it’s kinda like that.


Let’s briefly look at the physical health effects of unforgiveness. According to the article Forgiveness: Your Health Depends Upon It,


“There is an enormous physical burden to being hurt and disappointed,” says Karen Swartz, M.D., director of the Mood Disorders Adult Consultation Clinic at The Johns Hopkins Hospital.
Chronic anger puts you into a fight-or-flight mode, which results in numerous changes in heart rate, blood pressure, and immune response. Those changes, then, increase the risk of depression, heart disease, and diabetes, among other conditions.
Forgiveness, however, calms stress levels, leading to improved health.

And in the article Forgiveness: Letting Go of Grudges and Bitterness we can see the emotional effects …


"What are the effects of holding a grudge?


If you're unforgiving, you might:

  • Bring anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience

  • Become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can't enjoy the present

  • Become depressed or anxious

  • Feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you're at odds with your spiritual beliefs

  • Lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others"




And lastly, what does God have to say about forgiveness?


"For if you forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins], your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others [nurturing your hurt and anger with the result that it interferes with your relationship with God], then your Father will not forgive your trespasses." - Matthew 6:14-15

I remember when I was in high school and the guy I had a HUGE crush on hooked up with my “friend” while I was on vacation.


Oh! That hurt. I was so angry with her and filled with bitterness and hate.


Until one day my Methodist pastor preached on forgiveness and the scripture above.


Ouch. I could feel Holy Spirit tugging at my heart- wanting me to forgive her.


I knew that if I didn’t forgive her then … well, you read the rest of the scripture above.


I’d like to say that unforgiveness was never an issue for me after that incident. But, unfortunately, it was - usually in another form. Things like bitterness and resentment are close cousins to unforgiveness.


After years of constant negative thinking (on past or present things that upset me) and not resolving the reasons for the bitterness and resentment- my health suffered tremendously.


My health crisis is another story. You can read more it here.


My health started improving not only because I made changes to my diet and lifestyle, but just as importantly I made the decision (followed by action) to forgive, let go of bitterness and resentment, and make the most of some difficult situations.


By the way, forgiveness is NOT the same as ACCEPTANCE. It’s also not allowing abusive or toxic behavior. (Check out this post on Boundaries and Acceptance.)


So how can learning about forgiveness improve your health condition?


Because it empowers and motivates us to make tough decisions so that our health isn’t affected by unforgiveness.


Knowing that unforgiveness creates issues with our physical, emotional, and spiritual health gives us fuel to start the process of forgiving, letting go, and moving on.


PRO TIP: I’ve actually prayed, “Lord help me to be willing to forgive.” Meaning I wasn’t ready and willing to forgive. But I was willing (ready, eager, and prepared) to start the process. Baby steps.


The first place to start is knowing that it’s important for us to forgive and pray for help to do it.


If the situation is too painful for you to do this alone, be sure to reach out to a trusted friend, pastor, counselor or me. Be sure to checkout the resource below that can help you get started on your way to forgiving, letting go, and moving on with your life.


By the way, sometimes we’ve been stressed so long, our bodies are depleted of the nutrients it needs to perform basic functions- like having balanced mental health.


A healthy mental state of being is part of the forgiveness process.





My favorite supplement for supporting a healthy brain is Neurolink by Designs for Health.


“The fast pace of the modern world presents us with sensory inputs that can overstimulate the brain, making it difficult to maintain balanced moods, emotional stability, and proper focus and attention. The myriad of psychological stressors we face can be challenging to process in a calm and collected manner.
The neurotransmitters that facilitate psychological health—including positive mental outlook, balanced perspective, and the ability to cope with everyday stress—depend on the availability of the nutrients they’re made from.
Neurolink™ is a blend of these nutrients, designed to support balanced moods, mental focus, and healthy responses to emotional stress. These nutrients are present in food, but during periods of heightened stress, additional supplementation can be helpful to ensure that the body has adequate amounts to meet its needs.”

-Neurolink Patient Education, Designs for Health




You can purchase it from my estore. Use promo code FIRST25 to receive 25% off your first order. Shipping is FREE!






Let’s Review

  • Forgiving is important to our mental, emotional, and physical health. Many dis-eases can develop from a constant state of “fight or flight” (stressed out mode).

  • We can pray and ask for help to be willing to forgive.

  • Supplements can support our bodies when we’ve been stressed for long periods of time.

Carpe Diem (make the most of the present time)

Here are some steps you can do -- right now.


  1. Meditate on Matthew 6:14-15, Psalms 86:5, & Psalms 32

  2. Pray and ask God to help you. Jeremiah 29:13

  3. Forgiveness starts with a decision. A choice. You may not feel like forgiving- and that’s OK. Feelings follow actions.

Here’s to your health!

🦋 Missy

Related Posts

5 Facts of How Stress Effects Your Health

Boundaries and Acceptance Can Relieve Stress


Resources



Neurolink Supplement, use FIRST25 promo code to receive 25% off





Stress Less Action Guide: Tools to Help You Triumph Over Stress (There’s a lesson on how to forgive. It’s only $9.98).





Works Cited

Forgiveness: Your Health Depends Upon It

Forgiveness: Letting Go of Grudges and Bitterness


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Missy Rankin, CTNC, CHC

Certified Transformation Coach

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StressLessSOS.com

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Missy Rankin, CTNC, CHS

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Chattanooga, TN

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